The real world is different from fairy tales, films, and bestseller fiction. We all know this. Despite this when we are met with hardships and unknown turns of fate, all of us interpret the reality in our own way. Some of us deal with problems quickly and efficiently. Others often have trouble finding resolutions to their problems; they freeze and suffer–in other words they experience a depressive state. The reason why one person can successfully deal with their problems and another cannot lies in the individual personality characteristics. In this article, I would like to focus on the various personality characteristics which can lead to depressive symptoms such as depressed mood, boredom, diminished interest in or enjoyment of activities, and social withdrawal.
I would like to bring your attention to the sources of depression which appear to be hidden within the self. Under the influence of stress these hidden aspects may become a precursor to depression. I will list several examples of emotional states and personality characteristics which can become the source of depression. For example, if an already insecure person has been offended or disrespected they may become depressed. Such personal characteristics as heightened sensitivity to social situations can also increase the tendency for depression. A strong fear of abandonment will often lead to depression. An individual who fears abandonment is constantly seeking reassurance from their partner, and they suffer deeply if those reassurances are missing. A depressed person sees themselves as unlucky; often he or she will see their feelings as unnecessary, wrong, and unlike themselves. Also, some individuals are more easily inclined to blame themselves and accepting guilt and shame.
Sometimes our own illusions may lead to disappointment. An inflated feeling of self esteem may lead to depression when encountering the harsh reality of terminal illness, stress, and aging. Sometimes we find ourselves in situations in which our expectations of ourselves and others are too high. When it comes to our hopes and expectations, whether they are about our loved one, or our career choices we may be met with disappointment. We may even feel fooled by our own emotions. Major disappointments from failed expectations can lead to a serious identity crisis and depression. Related to this is the concept of perfectionism. In this case the high ideals directed towards the self and others are not reflected reality. Problems with realistic self evaluation cam lead a person to a sense of loss of self which then leads to depression.
Often behind depressive feelings is hidden guilt, which can have many origins. Feelings of guilt may arise when, for example, being angry at someone who is close and important to us. On the other hand, feelings of guilt can stem from a strong drive to obliterate and opponent, which can occur in the personal or professional arena. Nonetheless, we often repress these guilty feeling, so that we are only left with grief. Feelings of anger, hatred, irritability and fury, which surface in relation to situational realties can lead to depression in the same way. Most individuals label these feelings as wrong and bad. The feeling of hatred is seen as so unacceptable that it is easily repressed out of the conscious mind and turns against the self, becoming self hatred. Then, the individual labels themselves as bad, blaming themselves without a logical grounding.
In this article I have summarized some personality characteristics which may make one more susceptible to depression. I hope this will help you understand that dealing with depression is not an impossible obstacle. When you start to pay closer attention to your own feelings and desires your bad mood and boredom will start to disappear. In my practice I have learned that in the emotional world of each individual there are no dead ends; a solution is always possible.